This weekend I did something that I had never done before. It wasn’t a crazy thing to do, or something that is unheard of, but it was something that I desperately needed and quite enjoyed.
I left the kids with my husband and went away for the weekend.
This might sound like an obvious thing for a mother to do, but it took me awhile to get to the point where I was ready for it. About a month or so ago I was having a rough time. I was feeling depressed, exhausted, and lost. Nothing super serious, but enough to know that something needed to change.
And then things did…
First my husband took it upon himself to look up some hotels that would be possible options for a weekend away. He said that we had talked about me possibly going away to have some time to myself before, but we just needed to actually figure it out. He started looking up hotels in Edmonton where we live, but then moved on to hotels in Calgary since I knew that if I was going away I needed to actually “go away.” We found a decent deal at the Wingate by Wyndham Calgary Airport. (And I have to say, it is a beautiful hotel! Definitely would consider coming back again sometime!)
Second, I read the book The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up. Some people like the book, others roll their eyes when I mention it. For me, it was what I needed. I started reading it and knew that I needed to follow her plan! I always feel like I am living in chaos and this book helped me gain some control in my life. I started by purging my clothes. Not that I have tons of them in the first place. But I got rid of things that were stained, that I didn’t like, that no longer fit, and that were just worn out! I then moved on to my bathroom and got rid of old lotion, makeup I never used, and a bunch of other stuff. It was SO liberating!!! I continued to purge and organize my entire room, and it has never looked so good! I also bought a full length mirror so I didn’t have to go into my daughter’s room to attempted to see my whole reflection through her sticker covered mirror. I was starting to feel like I was regaining some control. My husband even started following my example and we are slowly organizing the rest of the house.
Third, I read The Happiest Mommy You Know. It is not a “you have to do this to be happy” kind of book; it was the reflections of lessons learned by the author as she was struggling in her roles as woman, wife, and mother. Her book has provided the inspiration I needed to make some changes in the way I do things.
Fourth, I actually took the trip! The weekend finally arrived and I headed out of town. Edmonton and Calgary are less than three hours driving apart, but it feels like I’ve been on a little holiday! I left right after my shift at work, all the nervous energy starting to make me emotional, but once I was on the highway things were good. I arrived at the hotel, settled in, and realized that I was alone for the first time in a long time! I could do what I wanted, I was on my own schedule! I didn’t have to Worry about what anyone else wanted to do! On Saturday, I met up with a close friend who had been one of my bridesmaids and we spent the day shopping before going out for dinner. I can’t even remember the last time I went shopping on my own for just me! In the evening I picked up a hot chocolate and then sat reading a silly murder mystery. Again, reading novels has been something I haven’t done in way too long!
Today I will be heading home to see my little family. But before I do, I am meeting my grandma for lunch. She is one of the sweetest ladies I know and I’m excited to see be able to spend time with her today.
And now I need to finish packing and check out of my hotel.
If you are a mother thinking about taking some time for yourself, I would highly recommend it! I’m also starting to try to figure out how my husband and I might be able to get away for a couple nights in the future too!
Until next time!